Putting myself out there …
Sooo ... it's been about 7 months since I blogged and there is a whole lot to catch up on! As y'all know, I moved to Kinshasa in August 2020…
Act Like A Lady Think Like A Boss
When I was younger, the word boss was always associated with men - especially here in Africa. The older I got, the more I realized that while men were the…
I’m In Love …
It’s true ... I have found love. It’s been revelatory to find this love. A love that I lost sight of but has developed and grown in such a profound…
5 Simple Habits To Start In 2021
Tracking income and expenditure - I have talked about the money saving apps that you should download before here. So this won’t be new to most of you Cocktails. I…
What I’ve Learned While Traveling During A Pandemic Across 3 Continents
Yes, I’m Still Traveling In 2021. By the end of 2020 I had been to the US, Turkey, Ethiopia, the DRC and Zimbabwe! And yes, as of this post going…
Gratitude In The Midst of Many Trials
Chileeee it's been a year! I started the year in Boston and will be closing it out in Bukavu, DRC. I couldn't have predicted this life change in January but…
How I’m Learning To Truly Rest Using The Calm App
I always thought that I had this whole 'rest' thing nailed down. You know, go to bed early, turn off all distractions etc. Yeah, I've come to find that rest…
How I’m Finding My Way Through The Pandemic
Y'all, it felt as though I was living in a parallel reality the first couple of weeks I got to Kinshasa and Harare. Allow me to explain: I left Boston…
These 5 Things Are Bringing Me Joy During Social Distancing
I can honestly say that I'm slowly becoming an introvert ... and I'm ok with it! Social distancing has really got me re-prioritizing how and with who I spend my…
5 Money Saving Apps To Download During COVID-19
I understand that for most people, talking about finances is always a tricky subject. You have people who find it rude to discuss finances. Asking questions like how much one…
What Social Isolation Is Teaching Me … About How Lonely I Am
I was raised in an African household, which meant that I never really grew up 'on my own'. There was always an uncle who was supposedly visiting for a weekend…
You Are Too Much
I'll never forget the time that my junior high principal said to me, "Binja, women are to be seen and not heard". For as much as a #badass and #FearlessQueen…
Black Girl Affirmations
There is nothing more powerful than speaking over yourself. We create our own universe with our words and it's important to speak life into ourselves especially during the times we…
A tough year but still thankful
I’ve had a rough year ... so even getting to this time of year is a huge win for me. Between health issues, immigration woes and work, I’ve been hit…
Fall into new beginnings …
I'll be honest, I'm not a huge fan of the fall. The air gets crisper, the days get shorter ... le sigh ... fall lets me know that winter is…
Validation is for parking …
Looking for validation is a sure sign ... in many instances of insecurity. In these instances, an individual is looking to another person - an authority figure, a loved one…
5 ways to stay happy – even when life sucks
Let's face it, life is going to throw its worst at you. The goal isn't to avoid the hard stuff, the goal is to figure out how to ride the…
Topics I Wish Were Taught In School
First off, I have two degrees and I am all schooled out! But there are so many topics that I've had to learn from the universities of Google and YouTube…